"Let go and have a little fun" – Lele Rose
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Sue Pressman, 69th President of ACA
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A year of shutdown finally brings flowers in May. When I heard that every adult in the US should register by May to receive the COVID-19 vaccine, I realized that the keys to living outside our homes would soon be opening doors that had been closed for so long. That means we can travel safely again, go to restaurants, enjoy personal concerts, and spend time with family and friends. After all the heartache and loss we have experienced as individuals and with our customers, we will soon be able to reconnect personally. One of the things I look forward to the most is being able to spend more time with my daughter, who lives on me across the country.
I haven't said much about my private life in these columns, which is kind of ironic because, like many of you, I've been almost exclusively at home for a year. This month, as today's cover story of Counseling sheds light on counseling for children and teenagers and as we celebrate Mother's Day, I'd like to share some excerpts and renditions of Always Be Your Baby, a song my daughter gave as a gift for several years wrote me before. The ballad reflects some of her memories and ties in with her present life and future projection. Lianna (Lele Rose) is a full-time singer / songwriter and professional musician. Please take the opportunity to listen to her song and watch her lyrical video at https://youtu.be/dPqKmZ9upxo.[19459003
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Let's look through a songwriter's developmental lens as she ponders her childhood and what it meant to her. Story writing is an effective way to understand our customers and how they see the world.
The first verse of the song offers many development policy conclusions. It instantly creates a picture of the past, present and future and frames the song. Here are the first two lines:
When I was a small child, you
saved me from harm.
I saw how you put on make-up;
I wanted to be just as pretty as you.
Children are attentive and look for opportunities. Children grow up, but the identity between child and parent remains lifelong. The hierarchy of Abraham Maslow (security, self-esteem) can be recognized in the next two lines:
Now I'm an adult, but I'm still your little one. You still save me and teach me right from wrong
Oh I know you always want the best for me.
When children grow up, leave the nest and spread their wings, it's bittersweet in many ways. This reality is confirmed by a turning point in the song in which the young adult begins to comfort the parents in a decisive role reversal:
Don't you know, you are my only one
and only.
Oh, we know we never have to worry because I have you and you
have me.
I will always be your baby.
The second verse identifies parents as role models. However, they are not the only role models in a person's life. Counselors, teachers, extended family members, and friends also influence our development as humans. The following lines in the song imply work and life values:
Hey mom, always work hard; you never give up; You get what you want.
Cook of the house with two cats in the yard.
Near or far, I always think of you, you don't know.
The third verse recognizes the importance of parenting, support, influence, respect and hope for the future. When children are encouraged, they are able to become what Maslow calls "self-actualized".
You and Daddy raised me to be the best that I could be.
Made me dance; always asked me to play and sing.
Because of you I also heard the Beatles, the Stones, the Eagles, the great ones that your generation tastes like.
Now it's time for me to take your song. Take it with you and run like a band on the run.
The repetition of some themes from my daughter's song – through the eyes of a mother and a counselor – sheds new light on their meaning and the development processes of young people.