Most people agree that a sexual affair is considered infidelity, but what about sending a flirting text? What if your partner takes out multiple loans and acquires a large debt without your knowledge? Is it a betrayal to have virtual sex with someone other than your partner, connect with an ex on social media, or maintain an online dating profile…
"The Earth is what we all have in common." ~ Wendell Berry I love the warmth and brightness of sunny days, but I've always enjoyed the silence that comes when the rain starts to fall. Creatures withdraw into the warmth and dryness of shelters and living spaces. Outdoor work and routines are reconsidered and sometimes interrupted. The world, at least…
"The spirit is the place where the soul hides from the heart." ~ Michael Singer "You think you are so much better than me !!" When this sentence – contemptuously – left my mouth, I recognized the familiar words. I grew up with this sentence many times. The "rich people", the girl who won the competition, the ruthless neighbors, the…
"Less social media, more everything else." ~ Unknown It's been a long time since I was personally involved in social media. Some time ago I made the conscious decision not to scroll online anymore and to concentrate my time on IRL. I was shocked when I calculated. Scrolling for just twenty minutes a day adds up to fifty days over…
As professional consultants, we are often confronted with challenging clients who express the wish that their lives should be different, but always make the same decisions. We don't act as counselors as advisors, but if we don't ask questions that encourage our customers to find out what's true for them, we are doing them and ourselves a disservice. It is…
Professional clinical advisors who have maintained their careers for decades have literally got thousands of clients through their doors. There is no denying that the job is worth it, but the daily work of helping people overcome trauma, loss, addiction and other “difficult” challenges can strain even the most resilient practitioners. This raises the question: How do consultants maintain their…
“Meditation is the ultimate mobile device; You can use it anywhere, anytime and unobtrusively. "~ Sharon Salzberg I came home from my doctor's appointment last week and discussed three to four different things that have happened in the world as a result of the corona virus. At the fourth point, my wife asked me to stop. She said please tell…
“I don't need a friend who changes when I change and who nods when I nod. My shadow does that much better. "~ Plutarch People-friendly can seem like a kind of connection with others. We believe that when we make people happy, they like us and want us to be with us. While it may be true that the pleasures…
Jennifer Meyer, a licensed private practice licensed professional (LPC) in Fort Collins, Colorado, had a client who, after more than 30 years of marriage, found that her husband had embezzled money from their mutual business. This infidelity, along with his recent verbal abuse, prompted the woman to divorce. The client was hurt, shaken, ashamed, lost and confused about her future,…
"Health is not just about what you eat. It is also about what you think and say." A virus is spreading all over the world. Schools are closed. People are unemployed. Grocery stores are empty. Weddings, graduations, holidays, a day in court – canceled. This is the ultimate test for emotional resilience. Uncertainty is one of the main reasons that…