“Forgive yourself for not knowing better at this point. Forgive yourself for giving up your strength. Forgive yourself for past behaviors. Forgive yourself for the survival patterns and traits you picked up during a trauma. Forgive yourself for being what you needed to be. "~ Audrey Kitching You can try everything – exercise, a bubble bath, a relationship, a promotion,…
"The most painful thing is getting lost, loving someone too much and forgetting that you are special too." ~ Ernest Hemingway When I was in my early twenties, I had a relationship with a man who had emotionally and mentally abused me for many months. It turned out that I was his first serious relationship, and this had often overwhelmed…
The way is the goal. The process is more important than the result. Life is a journey, not a goal. There are three very common ones, some say cheesy and cliché sayings that you may hear when it comes to taking action to achieve your goals. Some of you are probably already rolling your eyes, and I did when I…
"Love yourself first and everything else is in harmony." ~ Lucille Ball If you asked me ten years ago what self-love means, I would probably have said something general like "be happy". But self-love goes much deeper than that; It's about accepting the earlier versions of yourself and your current challenges and appreciating yourself how far you've come. While we…
"I just went for a walk and finally decided to stay outside until sunset because I thought going out was really going in." ~ John Muir Somewhere, hidden in my collection of childhood memories, I remember this little card game with random, uplifting activities. I do not remember how they went my way and I do not remember that they…
Hello friends! Knowing that many of you love mindfulness and meditation and are creating a more peaceful world, I am pleased to announce that Jack Kornfield and Tara Brach are accepting applications for their next two-year certificate for mindfulness meditation teacher program. Although it's primarily an online learning experience, meaning you can participate from anywhere in the world, you have…
"Love is the ability and willingness to allow those you care to be what they choose for themselves without insisting that they please you." ~ Wayne Dyer When I married my ex, he had the potential to be a fantastic husband. To be honest with you, that's why I married him – I thought he could be anything I wanted…
“Agreeing things just to keep peace is actually a trauma response. If you do that, you will disregard your limits. "~ DJ Love Light Two years ago I moved from New England to the Pacific Northwest. It was time for a change, and although I was excited to start a new chapter in my life, I was sorry to leave…
"This girl was fat and I hate her." One of my clients said this recently – about himself. Well, her little girl herself. And my heart broke. One of the very first things I do with clients is to encourage them to exercise self-compassion and kindness – simply by expanding to the same basic human compassion and kindness that everyone…
“You could have gotten cold, but you got brave instead. You could have given up, but you kept going. You could have seen obstacles, but you called them adventures. You could have called them weeds, but instead you called them wildflowers. You could have died a caterpillar, but you kept fighting to be a butterfly. You could have refused to…