"Time and good friends are two things that become more valuable with age." ~ Unknown
In recent years we have spoken a lot together about creating borders and letting go of things that no longer serve us. Many of us have become better at allowing ourselves to say no and escaping old habits and routines. We are also more open to our decisions to reject people and places that emit bad vibrations or bad energy.
I think it's great that we are becoming more aware of the universe that is constantly changing around us. Together we recognize the power we have to make mindful decisions that resonate with our higher self. That's what it was about, wasn't it?
Maybe not entirely.
I have thought a lot about how this development affects the focus of the "self" on everyone and everything else.
While we're busy setting boundaries against the world, do we forget to set boundaries with ourselves? And if we actively avoid places with bad mood, do we think about the energy that we bring into spaces?
As we work to find an inner balance, do we leave the people whose stability depends on us? And while we're on our way to who we should be, do we selectively exclude parts of our reality?
Think about it.
You may love the mood of your favorite studio, but if you show up five minutes late after frantically walking in from the subway, you're shifting the energy of the whole room.
Or in another example, you feel empowered by a line you set with someone, but what if the person on the other end doesn't understand why?
You can be about becoming your best self, but are you still honoring your relationships and responsibilities? Do you still honor the world that gives you room to breathe?
What we have to avoid openly is to become spiritually selfish.
When we show up for ourselves, we can show up better for others, but we can't forget to notice how we show up in the meantime.
Of course we have to understand how we feel through the development of self-confidence. It is also important that we remain aware of how we make others feel.
Yes, we need to be more compassionate about what is happening in our inner world, but that does not mean that we reject what is happening in the world around us. We have to learn how to find silence in our chaos, but it is just as important that we do not cause chaos ourselves.
I loved my spiritual journey and put a lot of emphasis on exploring the limits of what I didn't think possible while being open to what could still exist.
I took more time to get to know the limits of myself. And I've learned to alchemize my vulnerability to realize my potential. Still, I admit that I was probably selfish in the process of my enlightenment.
While working on self-care, self-love, and self-confidence, I have probably ignored a few calls that I should have made, plans I shouldn't have changed, and relationships I should have made. & # 39; have cared better.
I have heard from many spiritually minded people that the path to your highest self is often lonely. Relationships dwindle. Priorities are changing.
The idea is that once you become more aware of yourself, you will draw more of what is really resonating with you into your life. Be it friends, jobs, romantic partners – the more you are connected to yourself, the more you will be connected to the magnetic attraction of fate.
And yet there is something to say if we live too deep in our heads.
Yes, we should prioritize our wellbeing and base our actions on the truth within us. Yes, we should take the time to get to know ourselves and break down barriers. Yes, we should commit to our purpose and reject experiences that hinder us.
But there is a balance between spiritual awakening and life in reality. We cannot use spirituality as an excuse to avoid things that we cannot face. We cannot use spirituality as a reason to fire people without compassion.
We cannot use spirituality to justify falling from the ground because we are discovering our inner world. We cannot use spirituality to rationalize, to ignore everything that has contributed to this turning point.
My goal is to balance our chakras, but I am also everything to balance our lives. And all I mean is that we as seekers cannot be claimed so much that we forget to see what and who was there for us before our search started.
I have been told that this road will be lonely, but I refuse to believe that this is the only truth.
If this reaches you, I ask you: Bring others with you. Show others your way while listening to them. Build a community around what people believe in. Honor those who don't see the way you do, but still see them the way they are for you. Share, get involved, and let the world in as you try to figure out what world you want to live in.
Start noticing how you show up. Be aware of how your presence affects the spaces you enter. Pay attention to the connection outside the connection with the universe. There is no reason why our spiritual awakening should be a one-way street. Let's build bridges so that others can follow or at least visit if they want.
Above all, remember that while we are concentrating on the Self, we cannot just forget everyone else.
About Sonya Matejko
Sonya Matejko is a writer, yoga teacher, and communications consultant, and lives in New York City. Its mission is to help people express and strengthen themselves mentally, physically and spiritually. Sonya hopes to take people to their highest potential by accepting vulnerability. Learn more about her work: www.sonyamatejko.com or follow her on Instagram @aforceofnurture.
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